In my practice I see individuals, couples as they transition into parenting and families of young children struggling with behavioral issues in the first few years of life.
I like to work relationally, which means that we, together, work on whatever challenges present themselves for you at this time in your life. It is my belief that each of us holds the answers to our own life challenges within ourselves. Therapy can create a supportive framework that can help clear debris from life's path so that you can see your path more clearly.
My training as a psychotherapist leads me to meet the client where they are emotionally and to support them in facing their challenges in the present. When appropriate, it can also be useful to look at the challenges' possible roots to the past.
At times, I make use of mindfulness and meditation as part of the
work. It is also often useful to make body-mind connections. In addition, I also have
experience working with histories of trauma.
At times, I work with women or men who are experiencing infertility. No one
wants or expects to find themselves in this situation. For some it can
feel like an emotional roller coaster ride. The challenges faced in these
circumstances are unique. A therapist who has some expertise on the
particular emotional landscape that ensues, can be a tremendous support.
In the transition to parenting phase of life, it is at times best to remain solution focused so as to make concrete plans that a couple wanting to have a child, a pregnant, or new family can access quickly. Together, we will create such a concrete plan that can be put into effect between sessions. At this time, you are welcome to come with your partner for some sessions to make sure the necessary steps can be put in place and to address any issues that emerge as you transition into becoming parenting partners. You are also always welcome to bring your baby to session.
Once those plans are in place, it may be useful to look back at your family history, the way you were raised, your relationship to your partner, so as to elucidate what might be contributing to your current symptoms. Therapy can at times be hard work, but it is valuable work that leads to better relationships, a stronger sense of self and increased self esteem. It can also have positive effects on your ability to parent your children in the way you would have wished to be parented.
Oftentimes, women believe that they should be able to tap into their maternal instincts with no outside support. As a result, when this doesn't feel like it is happening, the new mother will feel shame and guilt which is compounded by lack of sleep and the belief that she has to continue to take care of all her usual duties and host the visiting family. This is a cultural set up which needs to change. Another approach recognizes that the postpartum requires communal support. Therapy is one place where you can begin to dismantle these cultural myths and figure out for yourself what it is that you need to transition into matrescence (motherhood).
It is however, not the only way to gain support. Check out my resource page for information on support groups, mommy and me groups, doulas, emotional self evaluation tools, postpartum plans and many other resources and articles.